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Pixie
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Posted: February 08 2020 at 12:56pm |
I've lived alone for many years now, just recently loss my little dog. The other day the little girl next door came over, " I came to check on you, You must be lonely now " she said. Then she hugged me. Well inside I just cringed, Children, school,wintertime = stomach bugs and god knows what else. So today she came again,brought her little friend and they both latched on to me. She wants to bring her Mom over this week. Ever in the best of times I'm not into hugs.ich! Now is not the time to encourage company. So how can I resolve this without hurting her feeling. Any suggestions? |
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Tabitha111
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Not answer the door?
I have never been so sick all year long as when I dated a man who would get his two young children every other weekend and we would go out places like the zoo, etc with them. My son is grown and flown. I got so many colds, every cold they had, I got. If they had a runny nose, I'd soon be ill. When we broke up, I went YEARS without getting a cold. So, I agree with you. Little kids make me cringe for the same reasons. I think you could say when they come by, I was just going to take a nap, so I can't visit right now, bye sweetie, maybe some other time. Don't say "later" otherwise they just might come back later...Ugh. I dont really know what you should do! |
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Flubergasted
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How old is she? Maybe you just tell her how sweet she is, and that you appreciate her interest. Then, explain that not everyone is so demonstrative, and you aren't really a hugger. If she is old enough to be visiting without a parent, she is probably old enough to understand that hugs make you uncomfortable. Really, just explain it to her the way you did here minus the grossed out part. Lol
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Pixie
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I am all set,stocked ,I am already social distancing, so why would I let people in at this point.She wants to bring her mother over this week, Yikes!!!! In my post News Blackout,we have no cohesive information,uneven quarantining, for all we know spreaders in community. I will be hunkering down alone through this and I'm not risking getting sick for the sake of being social. I don't even know if her parents know the state of affairs. Didn't plan on mentioning it to my neighbors. maybe I should and say now isn't the best time and hope they understand.
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Glupa
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Hi Pixie. I remember you from PFI I believe. Nice to see you’re still engaged and sharing your knowledge and experience.
Kids these days are different than we were imo. They’re trained in school about things like what makes others uncomfortable and how to respect others situations. At least from what I hear. You might be surprised at how easily she accepts you and your aversion to contact. You might even suggest a different way to show friendship and affection a special greeting only between the two of you or an easily disinfected fistbump. It’s worth a shot anyway. Again, its good to e-see you! |
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KiminNM
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I've just been telling the people I normally hug that I'm still sick and don't want to get them sick. I immediately say "virtual hugs!!!"
So far it's worked perfectly. |
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Technophobe
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Gulpa, what a brilliant idea!
Pixie, don't let fear of death stop you living. I know this bug is going to be bad. But not yet. You still have time to tame and train the neighbours. |
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EdwinSm,
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Probably not you want to hear, but how attractive (personality wise) is the mother? The daughter seems warm hearted and friendly, and that may be what is needed if the days ahead get dark.
[Maybe I am jaded as my wife and I have become very isolated in the 12 years since she was diagnosed with a neurological problem, and I am feeling this isolation as a burden.] As Techno said "don't let fear of death stop you living". |
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